Join hands instead of holding hands helplessly

Girls wake up!!We are in 21st century.Gone are the days when guys are not supposed to ask our age.When we claim to be equal in every aspect then on what grounds are we expecting a special treatment at every part of our daily life.If a guy is generous enough to offer us his seat in a bus,acknowledge his generosity rather than considering it your moral right.
"Gender differentiation was commenced by our ancestors
 but now we are continuing it my lovely sisters."
If we boast about being equal in every aspect to males then lets not consider ourselves as some fragile flower.Lets be the stem so that we can equally support in the development of this environment which considers us weak.If we take an example of a very normal love relationship,in that too, girl always wants to feel special.She wants a guy to make her feel special on a date which he has to sponsor without a doubt.Why not the other way round?We can take an initiative to make a guy feel special.Lets expand our horizons of mind instead of expanding our image as dainty creation of god.
This is for all the girls who wanna marry a rich guy-"The success you wanna marry is not earned by you and anything which you don't earn can either be begged or borrowed."So its better to fulfill our desires on our own.
Why is a guy always expected to pay wherever we go.Why don't we girls realize that he too has got his own expenses the way we have.Rather than being a liability lets be an asset to men.
It was all about the silly expectations we carry from guys.Now lets talk about the illogical myths we have.
Why cant a female visit an holy place while she is suffering from her menstrual cycle.Our mother is the one who tells us about the menstrual cycle we girls get.She never thinks that we are impure or unfit to sleep beside her or hug her.Them how can we imagine god who is the parent of the whole world will discard us.God has created us .He is with us like our soul, we are never impure for him.
Can i see a surprise in the eyes of readers?Cant I mention Menstrual cycle publicly.Lets get practical and comprehend the truth that every student be it a guy or a girl learns about it in a proper way.Its taught to us in biology.Its as normal as giving birth to a baby.We can openly discuss about it and ask for help from our male friends or father while emergencies.
Lets open our eyes and look around that we all are equal.So, join hands together and contribute to the equality we always wanted between the two genders.

PURE HAPPINESS LIES IN THE HEART

This time I decided to celebrate my birthday in a different manner.In a manner which gives happiness to those people who have never seen the face of happiness since they took birth.I planned my visit to an orphanage.Sharing my smile to them can make my heart grow fonder.When I entered that place I found it painted with different colors of joy .  I heard kids crying out "sister,sister!".I saw them running towards me and the most youngest one hugged me.I felt as if I m in the arms of the God.His little arms were holding my thighs tightly and he cuddled himself under my arms.I had goose bumps and a drop of a tear came out of my eye.I had no idea how to control my emotions flowing out.We often get such emotions seeing anything heart capturing but we just ignore it and move on.Once just try to stand still in that moment and feel the warmth of divine love and compassion. I was in a dilemma that whether I should cry or just smile with him. He has no toys to play ,no colorful or funky clothes to wear.But he had that curiosity and love in his eyes which was beyond all worldly pleasures.They all surrounded me and wished me birthday by kissing my cheeks.I was just silently feeling the heaven I was in.It was full of satisfaction and ecstasy.

This feeling was far above the feeling we have in getting all material happiness.We flaunt our  lavish luxuries and attain satisfaction with the mere praise we get.But those kids ,they smile for the single daal and chapati they get,for the broken car they get to play and for the single new cloth they get as a gift from any unknown visitor.I saw them laughing and dancing while  getting just a a single set of stationery . They were happily unwrapping the gifts they got.They were so glad and satisfied with those things which we are very trivial for even a middle class family kid.We just reject a dress saying it does not fits me well.They have never worn more than two new dresses in an year.

We never respect the small bubbles of happiness floating beside us instead we just break them in the search of something big.One day instead of dining in an Five star restaurant just have some street stalls dosa Just get down from your a.c car and get some ice creams for the poor kids working in some place.These are some trivial things which makes others smile and hugs our heart with compassion.

Do not forget try accepting it

You go far from your place, nostalgic memories and remembrance.You are broken and you feel shifting to a new place will start a new journey of life.But never forget that if you do not clean the vessel from inside then  a new dish can never have its original taste.You keep on adding flavors to the new dish but the essence of the old  screwed up dish still remains there.In the same way life goes.Do not pretend to forget because you too know it from your heart that you can never forget things completely, in fact no one can .If you start living with the fact that something bad happened and see how quickly you get used to of that fact.
                                                     People say "move on dude!"because they were never at your side.So just listen to them and do what you feel is gonna make you  move on in your life.Their is nothing wrong in getting boozed up,but the reason behind that should be nothing.You should never drink to lift your mood up.Apparently you land up in a soup of desolation.Common find a permanent solution!Drinking is never the answer to your questions.Its just the better way to forget all the questions you wanted an answer for.Its better to cry over it as much as you can and then rise up like a strong person who knows what happened and what can happen.
Not just walking blindfolded so that you can never see the past.The day you will  uncover your eyes you will find your past standing just in front and ready to defeat you.
                                                    Changing your place ,work station,group of friends and even your mind set will never make you forget.It will just hide things to reveal you the truth in a bigger picture.So,moving on never meant that you can forget things forever,it always meant staying with memories and accepting them as a part of your life so that you can get used to of the adversity.That day you will never be scared of looking back because you will be hugging your past and walking with it like two old buddies.

DONT LOOK AT US

Sitting in a group of 20 guys and commenting at girl passing by.She is alone and terrified and finds very difficult to react or give it back to them.She keeps on thinking  the possible reason for this behavior of Boys towards girls.She shares it with her parents to know the reason behind this.Instead of looking into the matter parents tell her not to travel alone.They restrict her freedom

This is the stage through which almost all of the girls go through.

We keep questioning this behavior and we end up being raped or grounded by our parents.In this scorching heat we cover our body because we have a fear of hungry eyes staring at us.Is this the humanity??

They worship god and ask for all sorts of trivial wishes they have.A moment later if they see a girl they start looking at her from top to bottom and are determined to make her look down to the ground.Is that what makes them a Man?

The fun fact is here that they still expect God to grant their wishes.After insulting and disparaging the god's most nurturing creation they claim themselves to be the most well founded creations of the god.

We cant walk freely on streets because we are scared of gawking faces and staring eyes.We are humans just like these men.I address every male member here who has stared at a girl in a manner which is not permissible by her.I am not only talking about the road side guys.I am questioning those literate and claiming to be from very sound family background men too."Why do you stare at a girl who comes in short clothes to your school ,college or work-place?"She has right to wear anything she wants the way you men do.

Just sit back and think what if you go out in a vest and burmuda shorts and the people in street keep looking at you and start giggling in a group.You guys will be agitated and may be you end up thrashing people who will be staring.

We undergo through this situation daily in our life.

That 's all I can explain.Please stop treating us like aliens.We are just like you.You will know it the day you have daughters.

Start winning , stop cribbing

Its all about finding your happiness.You are blessed to be a human who can express every emotion. Our life is always prone to death.Still we spend 50% of our life crying and cribbing about people who hardly care about our existence.Why should nt we spend that particular time in keeping ourself happy our bringing smile on the face of those unpriviliged people.
Its never bad to drink or kiss any random guy.Its bad to be in your senses and keep crying for not having a boyfriend.Life is not about rules its all about breaking those rules and making mistakes which land you up in a soup.

You should nt be haywire if a guy is contacting you or looking at you.Rather you should go and ask him what he wants.May be is a gem of a person and who just finds you pretty.Getting into a lift full of crowd and then standing without even smiling.Are we all not humans??Atleast we can wish them good morning or is it written somewhere that we cannot wish a stranger.
These are some petty things we ignore thats why we find ourselves alone at the end of the day.Who stops you from making friends?Its only you.You find someone worth talking still you control yourself .For what??That what other person will think.Thats his job ..not yours..your job is to just say "Hi!I think rather than gazing at each other we can talk."Who knows that you will meet that person next time or not.And if you cannot,then you have no right to blame god for your lonely and non happening life.
Niharika

Secret smiles

Come!I will take you the world
Where bikini's are worn,and hair are curled
You wanna know the SECRET HABITS

OF GIRLS??

When guys look at us ,there is a huge happiness inside
But we show-"oh! I am never of this kind!"

When we walk in group we too peep in guy' s shirt
Hair in chest rock! but too much is yuk!!

Some like fair,clean shaved and chocolaty guys
But some rough and who are indulged in fights.

We look at ourselves from every angle in mirror
Looks we give to it are super killer

If the size is too large it spoils the shape
If they are tiny we compare them to grapes..

Seeing are nail paints don't get surprised
We have thousands of more which are highly priced..

When a guy speaks a word ,we judge him at once
That he is a goose or a Hunk.

Moment we see a pretty girl ,we burn from within
How come her skin is glowing and she is thin??

The intensity of our jokes are more than guys
To say something to each other we just have to smile..

If a girl says "I dress up for myself"she is a liar
Because every bomb is useless without a fire..

U guys can never stare at a girl the way we stare
Because here instead of lovers, competitors are cared.

It was a small example of how different our world is..
Still there are so many things i have missed.

restricted freedom

                 Restricted freedom

India is in a position like a half crumpled snake.It is trying to move but hardly drags an inch.Specifically for women here the world is so perplexing.Its just like you are in a worlds worst prison and you are served with fantastic food and clothes.Will you be able to enjoy?I guess the answer is No.We can never enjoy the facilities if the environment is ill fitted.

So,the women in india are given the liberty to study and explore the people and places.But the moment they start exploring and make mistakes they are addressed by different insulting names.Why?Let her make mistakes and learn like guys do.Why does her single mistake counts on her character.Either dont give her freedom at all.But this restricted freedom is of no use.

She also wants to open her arms and shout her spirit out .But the moment she thinks of doing it ,she is scared  of the people who will talk about her.When a girl walks down a street she is stared as if some alien has landed to earth.Not only guys..aunties,uncles all look at her to find something new to gossip about her.Have they ever realised how uncomfortable she feels.?"Girls have freedom to travel wherever she feels like".this is what people say.But when she follows that,she becomes the victim of rapes and eve teasing.So let them enjoy the little freedom they have.